Sometimes it feels like there are too many unknowns to bear. Like you wish you could take a seat, lean back, and look at the big picture–but you can’t. You can’t take your eyes off the prize, how much you want it, and all the while squeezing it so tight that you very much might … More Holidaze
… we ignore our own needs, so that we can meet our patients’ needs. We ignore our friends and families, so that we can save other peoples’ friends and families. Which means, at the end of the day, all we really have is ourselves. And nothing in the world can make you feel more alone … More As Surgeons…
Dear Polly, I’m 24 and it’s been a couple years since I was in a serious relationship, in which I got my heart broken. (I know, common, who hasn’t?!) I think I could have been pretty close to being in another one in college, but I ran away from it as fast as I could … More Darkness
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”
Dear Polly, For the moment, I am fine. I keep busy, I have good friends, and my work is very fulfilling. Not being in a relationship at this exact moment is not a problem. The problem is the long-term, I guess. The problem is living in uncertainty. The problem is what if I never find … More This applies to everything.
During many years of practicing surgery in the community, I have often had to make decisions with life-and-death consequences, in complete cold-blooded isolation from my inner emotions are biases. Often, before I can even begin to process the consequence of these decisions, I’m faced with another, and yet another. Some days, my job does not … More Confessions of a surgeon
I’m scared I won’t be a good doctor. I know it sounds trite. I know I’m compassionate and hard working and knowing everything is impossible…but I’ll never be one of those incredible people who are just so smart that they catch everything. And I’ll be personal here: I’m tragically afraid of being mediocre. We work … More The burnout